This is a fairly typical expression of ultra identity, in my experience. You may find it naive or disingenuous, which is fair enough. I would point out a few things. Firstly, the rather romantic and nostalgic appeal of, in particular, away games: I think many long-term travelling fans in all countries would be able to identify with these particular sentiments. Dedication, discomfort, companionship, chatter, long hours and hard cash spent following your team in good times and in bad, when the result doesn't really matter, so long as you were there.
Every ultra is different. There are those who only active with a group and those who make up a group for themselves. Ultras are all different but they are all united by their love for their own team, their determination to endure for over 90 minutes on their feet despite the rain and the cold, they are united by the warming effect of a chant sung out at the top of their voices. They are united by the security of the friend who sleeps at their side on the train taking you home from an away game, by the swaggering walk through a rival city, by the joy of setting off on an away trip and the tiredness of the return home. They are united by that shared sandwich after hours of hunger, by that cigarette offered on the train and repaid in the stand, by that argument about the left winger on the bench shared in the gloom of a night train. They are united by a mentality.
The things which unite us simultaneously divide us from the outside world, they separate us from worried parents, scandalised uncles, frightened classmates or disgusted teachers. Ultras are the exception to the rules, the unexpected which surprises you, the surprise which wipes the smile from your face when you thought you'd got away with it. Ultras are also the arm which pulls you up onto the truck before they shut the doors. Ultras are all this and more, many more emotions which can't be put into words.
A boy from the Sud
The other thing worth highlighting is the sense of shared identity vs the outside world, that ultras share more with one another even across the Roma-Lazio divide - or any other you care to name - than they do with society at large. This is both self-conscious rejection and imposed exclusion. And this I think is not such a universal and widespread phenomenon as my first point. It is here that the social and political dimensions of the ultra movement begin to open up into problematic areas, and where clearly the potential for political manipulation by extremists enters the picture.
As for violence: I think it's clear to see where it can follow on easily from a statement like the above. But it's not intrinsic. Bear in mind that however disgusting the scenes on Sunday, there are an estimated 70,000 ultras minimum across Italy: those rioting were a very small minority. If the ultras movement is to survive in any recognisable form in this country, and maintain the passion and excitement which so enliven Italian football, that minority needs to be repudiated and isolated as soon as possible. I keep assuring people that the majority of ultras are fanatical, sure, but fundamentally decent, non-violent people. So let's see some of that, please.